In reply to the article of Friday the 17th of May 2002 by Donald D'Haene of
Canada, who takes great delight in vilifying his father some 28 years after the fact.
It is extremely difficult to defend yourself
to statements made in a book of which one has not read or seen a copy.
Reading some of the statements made in your Newspaper, I can see that some
things have been exaggerated to make my past as a member of the Jehovah’s Witness Cult even worse than it was
in reality. I am not in any way trying to whitewash my past sins, for I
hate my past just as much as anyone. What my son failed to mention is the
very fact that my life was totally changed and that the reason it was brought
to trial was not for the sins committed, but because I was actively engaged
in exposing the realities and facts of the Jehovah’s Witness cult. Had
I remained a Jehovah’s Witness, it would have never have been revealed
to the world, or brought to trial, and the family would have been united
and never broken up. Yes, indeed; Jehovah’s Witnesses do keep criminal
activities, or sexual wrongdoings under wraps, as long as you remain within
their circle!
As my oldest Son Ronny well knows, and
expressed, to me personally, that even murderers who are Jehovah’s Witnesses
are under their protection. Donald was driven by the Jehovah’s Witness
elders, Circuit and District Servants or leaders of Jehovah’s Witnesses
to expose me and have me prosecuted. The Police Inspector’s wife was Jehovah’s
Witness as well, so if you have any intelligence at all, you will readily
see the main reason behind my having been exposed. I like to emphasize
once again that the reason of the family breakup and “flight” was not to
get away from abuse, as stated, but to “protect them from a person who
had discarded all erroneous beliefs and Doctrines of the Jehovah’s Witness
cult, put his full and complete trust in the Lord Jesus Christ who as the
great healer had cleaned up his life and forgiven him of sins that were
indeed grievous. You have to keep in mind, that the Jehovah’s Witnesses
brand everyone except themselves to be of Satan, worthy of destruction
at Armageddon, and those who disassociate themselves from their “New Society
within Society” are to be avoided and regarded as ones who associate with
demons. My leaving the Jehovah’s Witness cult was considered more terrible
or sinful, then sexual sins that had been committed. Wife swapping and
sex parties were going on amongst the Jehovah’s Witnesses in large numbers,
but when discovered by Toronto headquarters, the Circuit Servant was just
removed from the area and assigned to another circuit, with a reprimand.
A congregation overseer of the Kingdom
Hall that I attended was simply removed from his position, and put on probation.
The outside world was simply not aware of the sexual immorality prevalent
amongst the members of Jehovah’s Witnesses. It was all covered up, as it
would destroy the holier than thou image projected to the outside world.
At numerous occasions as a Jehovah’s Witness I cried out for help with
my problems, but since Psychiatrists and Psychologists were of Satan the
devil, and being in fear of running counter to the “instructions of Jehovah’s
Theocratic Organization” which was equal to disobeying Jehovah God Himself,
I was really sinking in deeper despair and mental illness. As Psychiatrist
and Psychologist well know, mental illness is 85 percent higher among Jehovah’s
Witnesses than the population as a whole. However, when a Jehovah’s Witness
is admitted to a mental hospital he or she are warned by the Watchtower
Society never to reveal in the admission forms that they are Jehovah’s
Witnesses. Why? The Watchtower leaders would find that devastating to their
statement that Jehovah’s Witnesses are the happiest people on earth. That
is what Jehovah’s Witnesses say about themselves. But in reality; they
are the most miserable people in the world. Their every move is controlled
and monitored and they are constantly brainwashed to walk in step as robots
controlled by their masters. You might ask, what has all of this to do
with your tragic and sinful past as a member of Jehovah’s Witnesses? The
answer to that question is twofold:
As a child growing up in the devastation of the second World War in poverty, hunger and deprivation; being looked
upon by the Ultra Rich, Middle Class, well to do or better off working
class as a subhuman species, being beaten black and blue by school teachers,
on account of not understanding a math question, sitting in front of the
class with knees in wooden shoes (Klompen), hands outstretched above the
head with palms turned up and several books piled on each hand. Then, when
the arms and hands grew painful and due to fatigue lowering them slightly,
being hit on the knuckles with a stick, being brutally pulled by either
the hair or ears and being called a “stupid donkey” by the same teacher
in front of the students. This being repeated day after day, week after
week, month after month, and then as if that wasn’t quite enough punishment,
getting beatings at home by mother with leather strap or sticks, for having
been a “bad boy” at school. No wonder that I had developed an inferiority
complex through my childhood and on into adulthood! At age 13 molested
by a Catholic monk in Courtrais West-Flanders and being told that this
was natural behaviour by both animal and human species. Oh how I wish that
things had been different for me in the past!
If these things of a demeaning
and shameful destructive nature could be wiped off like chalk on a blackboard;
if the harm done could have been prevented by Psychiatric help and therapy.
However, The Lord Jesus Christ accomplished more in my life than all human
wisdom ever could. Children in the schools today are not subjected to either
physical or mental abuse as I was, and even people of very poor families
are treated with respect and dignity. While some rich people still persist
in thinking themselves better humans than what they consider the “lower
classes” things have drastically changed in the past few years for the
better. While sexual matters could not be discussed with children in the
past, and considered taboo, today, sex education accomplishes and work
towards the prevention of molestation. My advise to children is to report
any and all acts of sexual deviation to their parents right away, or to
the police!
My behaviour of the past does not reflect my lifestyle, since stepping away from the Jehovah’s Witnesses. My Son’s
mentioning my fifth wife in your Newspaper is the result of his and others
constant efforts to destroy the harmony of subsequent marriages, which
they managed to destroy. Great efforts were made to destroy even the fifth
one, but they were unable to do so. In 1999 my fourth wife approached me
and apologized for having permitted the children of my first marriage to
undermine and destroy us. She acknowledged to my present wife and myself
in tears that she had made a terrible mistake in allowing them to do their
dirty work. But the harm had been done, and could not be reversed. She
fought hard in preventing the breakup of my present marriage and advised
my wife to pay no attention to what they are doing or saying, “Daniel is
no longer the person that he was as a member of Jehovah’s Witnesses; his
life is far different from what he once was.” She said also, “During our
marriage Daniel was never unfaithful to me, and we always went out together
to whatever Christian activity he was engaged in, and other activities
as well.” She further stated: “Even on his way to work and back, we kept
in contact by radio (Citizen band) all the way.” And, “He consumed no alcohol
or go to drinkfests with his workmates; he was a very loving and kind husband
to me!” My present wife asked her, “why was the marriage broken up then?”
She replied, “I let myself being influenced by his first wife and the children.”
How many ex-wives do you know of, that say anything but good things about
their ex-husbands?
In 1984 while having lunch at a restaurant in London,
Ontario I was approached by my Daughter Marina, who I had not seen since
1976. She came and sat at my table and said, “Dad, I have fully forgiven
you for everything that happen in the past,” After I apologized for my
former way of life she expressed herself I this way: “Dad, I am no longer
a virgin, as I had sex with a black man.” She continued while looking up
to me in this manner: “Dad, I am gay!” I reacted in this way: “Marina,
I am no longer the person you once knew, and my life has been drastically
changed. I love you very much as my daughter, with fatherly love. I am
totally against your being a lesbian, and God as you should know condemns
those who engage in this practice, unless you turn away from it and refrain
from living this way.” She had without a doubt expected that I would approve
of her homosexuality, which I didn’t.
Due to my stand on this issue, she shortly
thereafter started a campaign of hate against me with the full support
of her brother Donald and has continued until now, working very hard to
make my life miserable as possible. Do I hate her for that? No! I only
hope that she cleans up her life before it is too late. In passing let
me make it perfectly clear that my youngest son Erik was never part of
my past misdoings! To now state that he was, is a monstrous lie concocted
between them, to make it appear worse than it was. As a matter of fact,
it was Jeannette his mother who harmed him terribly, by rejecting him as
her son because he refused to attend meetings at the Kingdom Hall of Jehovah’s
Witnesses. She outright disowned Erik and he was adopted by a woman (non-Jehovah’s
Witness) in St. Thomas, Ontario, Canada. Erik rebelled against the foster
parent, got involved in drugs, an ended up in the psychiatric hospital
for mental patients in London, Ontario. This is something you will not
hear about or read about in Donald's book. Jeannette was so fanatic about her Jehovah’s
Witness religion, that she disowned her own child, simply because he did
not cooperate with her in attending the meetings at their Kingdom Hall!
No wonder that Ronny my oldest son made the statement on a radio station
of Kelowna, British Columbia (and I have a copy of the audio tape), “that
the elders of Jehovah’s witnesses even after she had forgiven my dad for
his sins, drove my mom to divorce my Dad.” Upon being asked by the radio
announcer what that did to the family, he stated, “It literally destroyed
it!” This cannot be denied by my son Ronny, as it was recorded.
In 1992 the Royal Canadian Mounted Police
investigated me fully as to my life since release from a provincial Correctional
hospital, and exonerated me by granting me a full pardon. No longer could
anyone accuse me of any wrongdoing as in the past as a member of Jehovah’s
Witnesses! Canadian law also provides protection from assassination of
character. So Donald is quite aware of the fact that I can bring him to
court for this. He seems to forget that I am a Canadian Citizen and that
I can travel to my country when I choose to do so, and start legal proceedings
against him, and the publishers of the book. He thinks that I am afraid
of the complaint selling more books and more people reading it. Does he
not realize that I can have the book banned as well?
My Son Donald mentions 5 wives, to make
it look as if I am some kind of a terrible monster. To put the record straight
about my first wife and I, the Jehovah’s Witness religion was not forced
upon her by me, but she willingly and voluntarily accepted it through the
efforts of …….a Jehovah’s Witness of Straffordville, Ontario, Canada, a
Belgian, and …….of St. Thomas, Ontario, also a Belgian. Both Jeannette
and myself were thus together persuaded to become Jehovah’s Witnesses,
without beating or force. I have never abused my first wife Jeannette in
any shape or form! Looking at the picture of Jeannette, as featured in
your Newspaper with Donald, made me cry, because, I loved her very much.
When my life was cleaned up, and when I came home with the news that I
had decided to follow the Lord Jesus Christ, and assuring her that my sexual
problems were solved and would never be repeated again, fear was written
in Jeannette’s eyes. Not because I assured her of my change as far as morality
was concerned, but my leaving the Jehovah’s Witness religion!
Leaving this cult, was what shocked her, as she was indoctrinated to believe
(as I was at one time) that I was now an agent of Satan the Devil.
That is what the “flight” away from me was all about!
She was aware of my problem for over three
years, and remained with me, as long as I remained as a member of Jehovah’s
Witnesses! Why is that fact missing from their statements? It takes a humble
person to admit that he or she was wrong and sinful. Why is it that Jeannette
for whom I have no hatred or resentment in my heart is not revealing the
fact that she had a sexual affair with a Hungarian young man, starting in 1958 for quite some time, the possibility existing that I might not
even be the natural father of Donald? Look at the facial features of Donald
and the rest of my children. Can you see the difference? There is a saying
in English, that those who live in glass houses should not throw stones!
In the New Testament we find Jesus Christ saying something similar: [Flemish
quoting, Mathew 7:1-5]. In other words, look at yourself in the
mirror first, and at your own lifestyle, before you judge others for their
sins.
Donald is a Homosexual, and as such, he
has committed sodomy with a multitude of men, more than you could number, one
of them a black man who contracted the Aids virus as he openly admitted
in the London Free Press a while back. His present "partner" is one of
numerous other ones...
Homosexuality, though so readily accepted in Society today is nevertheless a filthy,
immoral lifestyle, that isn’t too different and is just as morally degrading,
as the sexual deviation of my past. My comments on Tante [Aunt] Blanche saying, "Donald is een Sympathieke jongen," [Donald is a sympathetic young man] is very flattering
to the ego of Donald, but the fact remains, that what Donald condemned of his father
(and rightly so), he is actively practicing as an adult. Again, I repeat: If you live in glass houses, don't throw
stones! I have been cleansed from these immoral practices of the past (Thank
God), and I would be the first person to condemn it, and Donald continues
to practice sexual deviation, calling it, Happiness and contentment. His
mother too is tolerating his sexual deviation, and lives under the
same roof with sodomites.
Doctor Daniel Cappon, A Canadian psychiatrist
at the University of Toronto, Ontario, Canada who has treated hundreds
of homosexuals states “Homosexuality, by definition, is not
healthy or wholesome…At worst, the homosexual person will die younger and
suffer emotional, mental and physical illness more often than the normal
person. The natural history of the homosexual person seems to be one of
frigidity, impotence, broken personal relationships, Psychosomatic disorders,
alcoholism, paranoia, and suicide.” Dillying in rectums and chewing on genitals
is as good scientific proof of "psychosomatic disorder" as could ever be
produced. Particularly in the age of AIDS, such practices are sheer insanity.
When men refuse to give their hearts, their
affections and their love to Jesus Christ they inevitably waste them on
some silly idol. Every man has a god. He has something he cherishes, some
obsession, something he devoted to above all else. That is his god. In
the evolution of godless men, they, …. [quoting in Flemish, Romans 1:21-32].
The first evolutionary step that follows the rejection of God is the mind
goes morally crazy. As a Jehovah’s Witness I rejected the Divinity or Godship
of Christ, with the disastrous results that brought me to the pits of dense
darkness. Accepting Christ on the other hand resulted in cleansing and
purification bodily, and morally. Yes, dear readers, relatives of mine,
friends and former neighbours of mine in West-Flanders Belgium; I am very
much ashamed of my past as a Jehovah’s Witness, but I am not ashamed of
my present lifestyle. Let the forces of evil press on with the vilifying
of my name and reputation; let them wallow in the dirt as much as their
heart desires; let the newspapers sensationalize and by means of headlines
in order to sell their publications. Yes, they can point to my past and
be shocked by it. From it all, may they learn a valuable lesson I humanity.
No one is free of sexual immorality, unless he lives by Godly principles
and becomes a Christian not in name only, but in reality. Then they can
rejoice with me and shout it on the highest hills: “Praise God for he has
delivered me from darkness of sin, into truth, love and to this glorious
light and salvation in Christ Jesus!”
Homosexuals have the brilliance to use condoms before engaging in sodomy,
but not enough sense to quit their filthy lifestyle. Such insane activity
demonstrates how godless minds go beserk.
“Fools make a mock of sin,” was never more obvious. In a venereal disease
epidemic prostitution, fornication, adultery and homosexual sex are forms
of insanity. And there are some learned people who think our whole world
as of late “is insane.” English novelist John Osbourne, for one, calls
North America a “sexual nuthouse.”
It appears our godless, sex obsessed society
is cracking up under the psychological pressures. Doctor P. A. Sorokin,
the former professor of sociology at Harvard University, said, “The weakened
physical, emotional, and spiritual condition of the sex glutton usually
makes him incapable of resisting the accompanying pressures, and he eventually
cracks under the weight. He often ends by becoming a psychoneurotic or
a suicide.” (Quoted from Gay Community News, July 9, 1983) The mental effects
of immorality, psychological as well as physiological, are scientifically
provable! Doctor Jacques Leibowitch states that the average number of sex
partners for American homosexuals is 78 a year, while the record reaches
around a thousand per year. The sex-god has eroded our values, broken down
our homes, rewritten our textbooks, corrupted the television and turned
us to perversion. Sexual idolatry even has its martyrs. Two men tied themselves
together at the waste and shared a final bottle of wine in a room decorated
with freshly cut flowers. Then they jumped from the window of the thirty-fifth
floor of their New York luxury apartment…..chose suicide over the slower
agony of Aids that plagued them both. …….a neighbour …said, “…..was seriously
ill, but he never disclosed at that time that he had Aids . . . ., who’s
apartment was just above the
pavement where the two hit, called their suicides “a very violent statement.
They could have done themselves in, in their own apartment. Obviously they
were trying to say something.” What they were saying with the wine and
flowers was it was “beautiful.” The rope declared “together to the death.”
Their death said, “We are happy martyrs of the sex god we lived for.” There,
in a nutshell are the seeds of depravity within the heart of man that without
God, will burst with an affection for another man’s rectum. Anal sex is
“unnatural.” Well may North America weep over her “perverted” ways that
led many of her people into AIDS. And in turn other nations as well who
inherited AIDS from the American gays who travelled there to her sex parties.
In closing I like to say how sorry I am that my relatives had to
be shocked in this way. However, those with whom I have been in contact in Belgium
on many trips there, can truthfully say with conviction, that since I left the
Jehovah’s Witness cult I was no longer what I used to be as one of them.
To my family in Belgium, I like to say this: As much as public exposure has shamed
you on my account, can you forget and forget? Can you pray the Lord's prayer in
all honesty and still not forgive?
As it reads in the Petrus Canisius Bible: [Belgian translation,
Mathew 6:9-15]
With complete confidence, I look forward to the future, as life goes on and we
must press on I faith, knowing, that Christ died on the cross for sinners such as
myself and the rest of mankind. The world may laugh and poke fun with those who follow Jesus Christ, but
in the end He is the final Judge.
I wrote this letter in English as I am
after 46+ years more fluent in English than in Flemish. I trust that your
Newspaper is not biased in favor to one side of the issue only. I challenge
the Editor of De Krant van West-Vlaander to publish this letter in its
entirety without editing it or altering its contents in any way. Print
it as written in Flemish, and feel free to send a copy to my son Donald
in Canada as well. [Quoting from the Flemish article, English translation
here: “Everything in my book is the truth.” Donald also said in your paper,
“He knows very well that if he sues me, more people will want the book
and buy it.”] To that I answer that Donald also knows
full well that I could sue him in court for thousands of dollars, for defamation
of character through the human rights commission in the province of Ontario,
Canada. It all depends on the circumstances, whether I will pursue that
course of action. There is an old saying in Flemish that goes something
like this, [English translation: How more a man stirs shit, how more he
stinks!”
Shall I as a Christian believer return evil for evil?
Jezus Christ says: [Belgian translation,
Mathew 7:6,12]
Respectfully Yours,
Daniel Dhaene
